Flirting For A Long-Term Relationship
Have you ever wondered why we flirt?
I mean, we've all done it at some time but it's
one of those things that we do without really
giving any thought to why or how.
Quite simply, flirting's our way of
letting the opposite sex know that we're
available. What it says we're available for
depends entirely on how we flirt but for the sake
of this article, I'll concentrate on the flirting
that's done when you're with somebody you might
like to develop a committed relationship with.
If you're a bit on the shy side,
perhaps lacking in self confidence after being
away from the singles scene for a long time,
flirting can be quite a daunting task. It isn't
difficult. It's like everything else; practice
makes perfect so if you want to be a successful
flirt on the serious dating scene, you need to
start sticking your toes back in the water before
you dive in after the big fish. Find a few fellas
who you think are nice but are unlikely to bump
into at the local post-office or your regular
watering hole and practice your flirting skills
on them. If you get it wrong the most you'll lose
is the time you spent flirting but you'll have
learned a lot. When you start to feel confident,
that's the time to home in on the guy of your
dreams and show him what you're made of.
Smile
Picture the scene. You're sitting at a pavement
cafe on a warm, sunny day. A reasonably nice
looking guy walks past, glances in your direction
but looks as miserable as sin. Five minutes later
another reasonably nice looking guy walks past.
This one looks across as you and smiles. Which of
them would you most likely want to get to know
better? My bet's that you'd go with the second
guy, simply because he smiled.
A smile immediately gives your
appearance more warmth so you'll seem more open
and inviting to others.
When he talks, smile in appropriate
places. Don't sit there grinning like a Cheshire
cat; at best you'll appear false, at worse he'll
think you've forgotten to take your medication.
A smile shows interest and best of
all, it's contagious.
Eye Contact
Everybody enjoys looking at something they find
appealing and you don't want him to think you
don't fancy him, do you? If you're shy or
insecure about flirting you'll perhaps find it
difficult to hold his gaze for a moment longer
than you should but you really MUST look at him
when he's speaking. Looking at everything else
will just say "that crack in the pavement's
more interesting to look at than you" and
that's hardly what you want, is it?
If, on the other hand, you're super
confident, don't go making the reverse mistake
and spend the evening staring at him. Men may
love to boast to their mates that "she
couldn't take her eyes off me" but in
reality, being stared at makes a person feel
awkward and embarrassed.
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